Written by Anne L. Bicks, Editor of Dana Bicks LLC
Dana and I were united in marriage on the beautiful beach of Okaloosa Island in Florida, last November, and one of the first verses recited were, “It is love and God’s grace that has brought you here, and it is love that will keep you together always”. Well, this statement is true! It was and still is, one of the most beautiful moments of my life. He is truly the love of my life. Recently though, I came to acknowledge the Bible’s explanation that marriage is dissolved at death and will not exist in heaven. What?? For me, this was a true panic attack because I cannot envision life without my husband. So, a ton of questions popped into my mind: Why did I fall in love and get married if he will be taken from me? What is the purpose of getting married? What happens if we marry more than one time? Which spouse will be mine in heaven? Can I trust God will make it better there for all couples?
No need to panic for God is in control! First of all, in this life on earth, marriage is designed for procreation and companionship. We are to raise children and promote goodness and holiness of our spouses, building a foundation and family for our afterlife in heaven. He clearly states we will not give birth after death because His nation of people will have already been created in this life.
Contrary to belief, Jesus did not say marriage doesn’t exist in heaven. What He said is people blessed with eternal life will not get married in the afterlife, for it is only an earthly concept. There’s a big difference! This does not mean that spouses will no longer know each other in heaven or keep an intimate relationship. It will be a perfect bond that unites two humans into one under Christ and the Church. I envision this as the immaculate union we will share with Christ and all our loved ones. It will be fully unraveled in all its glory in the eternal form of agape love in heaven.
So, how will this affect us if we were married more than once? Just because a man and woman might not be married anymore doesn’t mean they will lose their relationship. They will still remember their time they had on earth and the intimate love they shared, but Christ will take away the earthly sins of that relationship. Because sin will be non-existent, everyone will be filled with God’s love. We will love one another (yes, even the exes) with an intensity never known while on earth. Even if an earthly marriage was not made in heaven, it will be fulfilled there. The close relationships we have now will be even better as we won’t hurt or disappoint each other anymore.
It is hard for me to conceive having a marriage in heaven that is just perfect! I can’t imagine loving my husband even more than I already do here on earth, but God guarantees it. Personally, I can’t wait to live in a God-centered world and be in a marriage where no laws are needed. We must trust and believe God’s word of the continuance of marriage in heaven. Couples will have all of eternity to learn and grow deeper than they ever were on earth. I don’t know about you, but I’m totally excited!