Children that perceive such miraculous perception ought to flatter themselves in Holy water. Parent abuse is common….
The word spread and men came bearing gifts. Animals grazed out in the meadows…. we all know the story. A child was born by miraculous conception. There is no other miracle greater than a child that two parents have been blessed with from God. Ah, yes. But most of us have experienced the blessing of your child’s birth. Then our kids grow up and they have the misconception they can do no wrong …
Too many times, I find friends being scolded by their children. It’s as if the child inherited permission from their grandparents. I sat outside in a refreshing breeze last night and listened to how an adolescent can run their lives better than their parents. Though some have never had the pleasure of bearing a child, the Almighty Child can do no wrong. A legend in their own mind, they believe you won’t find fault with their lifestyle. They wander unto this world having more knowledge and skill than those twice their age.
I believe we have created a new class of people – not rich, nor poor – but the self- righteous. They are perfect but only in a mirror, maybe. I hear the sins of these children that proclaim their innocence. Oh, don’t you wish you could return to the righteousness of youth where you could be as perfect as the children are today??
Telling parents all their faults they have made, it’s as if when they achieve enough demerits they will disown their parents. Somebody needs to shake them and remind them that wisdom comes from failures. If parents were as perfect as Christ, there would be no need to reluctantly remind them how irrelevant they are. When someone passes away, the child waits for handouts!
I remember my dad always said, “Those who live in glass houses ought not pitch the first stone”. I believe he was smarter than me. Children that perceive such miraculous perception ought to flatter themselves in Holy water.
The Ten Commandments are written in stone and now you know why. Children, today, will pay for their raising opinions. It’s as if you haven’t witnessed that rodeo played out before. Oh the roulette wheel your children spin. They gamble their life and all you can do is pray for them.
I wonder how many kids ever took the time to understand the Bible? I pray… not for them but for the parents that have been so badly damaged by their children’s immaculate conception of the philosophical washing – not by holy water but by the storm drains of the world.
And they shall say to the elders of his city, ‘This our son is stubborn and rebellious; he will not obey our voice; he is a glutton and a drunkard.’ Then all the men of the city shall stone him to death with stones. So you shall purge the evil from your midst, and all Israel shall hear, and fear. (Deuteronomy 21:20-21)
Whoever spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him is diligent to discipline him. (Proverbs 13:24)
Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord. (Ephesians 6:4)
Do not withhold discipline from a child; if you strike him with a rod, he will not die. If you strike him with the rod, you will save his soul from Sheol. (Proverbs 23:13-14)
Honor your father and your mother, that your days may be long in the land that the Lord your God is giving you. (Exodus 20:12)
Editor’s Notes: Verbal abuse towards parents or other family members by young people is more common than many people think. It is an attempt to control and have power over you or others in the home. It can happen in families of any culture, religion or situation in life.
Abuse can be a sign of:
- The children hasn’t learned to control or manage feelings, especially anger. They act out their feelings without using any self-control.
- The child hasn’t learned to deal with the stresses of life, to solve problems or cooperate.
- They don’t value or respect other people.
- They see a parent, often the mother, as weak and powerless.
- The children are affected by alcohol or drugs. Some drugs can trigger psychosis (being out of touch with the real world) and violence.
- A young person might act aggressively if they have problems with their mental health.
- They may be anxious and lash out because they start to think they can’t trust those around them.
Whatever the reason, it doesn’t mean you should put up with it. It is important to get professional help! Many parents find that acting early helps them feel like the parent again. When you do make changes, things seem to get harder before they get better, so make sure you have support. It is important to:
- Believe in yourself – it isn’t your fault and it doesn’t mean you are a bad parent
- Learn to remain calm and find ways to deal with stress. Go for walks, have coffee with a friend or do other things that relax you.
- Build your confidence by patting yourself on the back for each small step you take
- Talk with someone who can help. Your doctor is a good place to start.
- Join a group with other parents who are dealing with this too.