Lovin’ Life

….. A synchronized spiritual way of life, God’s divine is taking hold.

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Dawn awakens the sleepy morning, smelling the remnants of last night’s breeze. Trees bare signs of a new lease on life – happy to be out of the woods of winter. Our Father ordered the winds to turn. I sit on the lanai rejoicing, lovin’ life. I take a second to thank God, not for the luxuries of my lifestyle, but the minute joys in my life. My first thought is humbling, and it begins with a peace of mind for I know everything is according to His will. A synchronized spiritual way of life, God’s divine is taking hold.

Confident, my mind drifts off to other similar amenities that make lovin’ life much easier. It is security though not the financial kind. (I gave that to God to handle). The security of my love, my wife, rests in the palms of His hands. It is a love that evolved on an evening walk. I took her hand in mine and felt a spark. At the time, I couldn’t do anything about our relationship, but God had greater plans for us. In hindsight, how obvious His signs were to us!

Like designer’s attire, some things may not fit, but some things make you feel comfortable. Almost like the boots I lace, I walk in the footprints of Christ’s path. I follow Him relentlessly and comfortably too, just lovin’ life. Treading only in faith, I believe in miracles. Without them, you have little left but doubt. Today, I cover my soul with a baggy Destin sweatshirt, proudly displaying the place I took her hand in marriage. I claimed her as mine, just as God so ordered in our prime.

Success is an absolute acknowledgment that where you go in life, Christ is with you. Anointed by His Father, you find your seat for the last scene is about to commence. Rsvp! You wouldn’t want to miss seeing this script played out! You don’t have to be in the front row. Just believe you are where you need to be when our Big Brother arrives to greet us.
So, I watch the sun majestically calling as it rises in the east. I wonder, is today the day when Christ will come calling? Does it matter? Not really, as He will come when He’s ready. But, in the meantime, my job comes first. As it is written, a man shall take a bride, and she shall be his for eternity. To honor and love…. I close my eyes and can feel the warmth. Lovin’ life, my boots remain ready.

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What Happened To My Marriage?

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Written by Anne L. Bicks, Editor of Dana Bicks LLC

 

Dana and I were united in marriage on the beautiful beach of Okaloosa Island in Florida, last November, and one of the first verses recited were, “It is love and God’s grace that has brought you here, and it is love that will keep you together always”. Well, this statement is true! It was and still is, one of the most beautiful moments of my life. He is truly the love of my life. Recently though, I came to acknowledge the Bible’s explanation that marriage is dissolved at death and will not exist in heaven. What?? For me, this was a true panic attack because I cannot envision life without my husband. So, a ton of questions popped into my mind: Why did I fall in love and get married if he will be taken from me? What is the purpose of getting married? What happens if we marry more than one time? Which spouse will be mine in heaven? Can I trust God will make it better there for all couples?

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No need to panic for God is in control! First of all, in this life on earth, marriage is designed for procreation and companionship. We are to raise children and promote goodness and holiness of our spouses, building a foundation and family for our afterlife in heaven. He clearly states we will not give birth after death because His nation of people will have already been created in this life.

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Contrary to belief, Jesus did not say marriage doesn’t exist in heaven. What He said is people blessed with eternal life will not get married in the afterlife, for it is only an earthly concept. There’s a big difference! This does not mean that spouses will no longer know each other in heaven or keep an intimate relationship. It will be a perfect bond that unites two humans into one under Christ and the Church. I envision this as the immaculate union we will share with Christ and all our loved ones. It will be fully unraveled in all its glory in the eternal form of agape love in heaven.

So, how will this affect us if we were married more than once? Just because a man and woman might not be married anymore doesn’t mean they will lose their relationship. They will still remember their time they had on earth and the intimate love they shared, but Christ will take away the earthly sins of that relationship. Because sin will be non-existent, everyone will be filled with God’s love. We will love one another (yes, even the exes) with an intensity never known while on earth. Even if an earthly marriage was not made in heaven, it will be fulfilled there. The close relationships we have now will be even better as we won’t hurt or disappoint each other anymore.

It is hard for me to conceive having a marriage in heaven that is just perfect! I can’t imagine loving my husband even more than I already do here on earth, but God guarantees it. Personally, I can’t wait to live in a God-centered world and be in a marriage where no laws are needed. We must trust and believe God’s word of the continuance of marriage in heaven. Couples will have all of eternity to learn and grow deeper than they ever were on earth. I don’t know about you, but I’m totally excited!

Only Know….

A true story of love and memories

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Looking out over the water and the blowing winter wind, it all looks the same. With great perception, I watch my wife. I know her inner thoughts as I see a cold tear fall from the corner of her eye. Maybe it will help to say, I love you. I pray it softens her aching heart.

Leaning over the old rickety handrail, childhood memories pass through her soul and they seem like a lifetime ago. She silently remembers the camaraderie of herself and her brothers fishing and swimming, crabbing in the summer, and escapades on the frozen river. But most of all, her mother’s last words spoken before she went with God, seems to prevail within her soul…. “Take what I am giving you and buy your own waterfront home. Find peace and love there.”

I was busy pursuing my own dreams so I never recognized God’s gift in 1985 – my wife. Little did I know, she was what I needed! So thirty-two years later, my phone displayed her number for the first time. It was obvious – God wanted her to make the first move back into my life. I’m not sure if an angel can rescue one of its own, but she rescued me from my world of a near disaster. God wanted us to rescue each other.

Only KnowI never had the pleasure of meeting her mom but, somehow, I feel God calls me to complete her dying wish. Now sitting on the front stoop with her back facing me, I can read my wife’s thoughts as her head reverently bows before God. I hear her heart say, “Mom, I’m finally home… where peace and love lives, now and always. Thank you”.

Love finally brings not just us, but every memory she held on to, back together again. Staring across at the winter waves, we praise God. I sincerely thank her mom as a smile comes like the sun, seeping through the cold clouds. If she could only know….

Driven By Faith

Love…. and all that it implies

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In the anointing of early morn, I am greeted by the dawn. A chill remains in the variable breezes, as I look out across the effervescence of the inlet. It is God’s awesomeness that has brought us together. Reflecting as I sip on my first cup, life is full twists and curves. It is true that God does answer the prayers of His children.

Who would have known what plans God had for the two of us? I was destined to find my comfort somewhere on the shores of Oklahoma, and you had succumbed to the battlefields of Virginia. We would have never found our true love, if it had not been for our heavenly Father’s divine intervention.

Through the pain and sorrow of past misjudgments, the suffering continued until one cold February morning…. our Father parted the storm clouds and granted a pathway. It was as though He parted the waters just for us! A love story, driven by faith and blessed by prayers, was anointed by our Almighty. Like Robinson Crusoe, we were lost but not forgotten…. for God knew better.

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So our crusade began, like a baby learning to walk. We stumbled some, but our hearts remained vigilant to our promise. Remembering feelings from decades before, we can only imagine what God has in store for our journey now.

In the bright reflecting rays of a Floridian November, the sun heated up our individual paths. We joined hands and vowed our love for one another. We promised God our love to him as well, forever. The heavens are true and as blue as the flowing oceans. We’ve come to our destination where dreams and reality can only make believers in the Lord’s miracles and blessings. Our hearts rejuvenated, God has and will continue to bless our anointed future. Saying our prayers and holding onto our hearts, faith in God is all we have. God is love!

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1 Timothy 1:5
The aim of our charge is love that issues from a pure heart and a good conscience and a sincere faith.

My Sleeping Beauty

Receiving blessings and miracles….

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Watching the hands of Gentle Ben hanging above her head, the sun shines on the bottom of her slippers as her eyes grow heavy. Her mind is a million miles from here. The living room looms as the world is in her hands. With her swept-back hair and bedroom eyes, she stretches out on the couch in blue sweats. I watch her in awe. The sun gleaming through the window caresses her smile as she dozes off again. So I stare at the love of my life. Once in a great while, God honors those heartfelt dreams.

Keeping the faith, our Father in heaven reciprocates with a genuine love you’ve spent your life looking for—a true blessing. Holding on to the dreams you prayed for long ago, God’s in the business of answering them. You see, patience is the secret.

So, you may ask, “How can I receive God’s blessings or a miracle?” First, be diligent in prayer and praise as God did all His miracles by the spoken Word. Prayer may be in the form of singing or reading and studying the Bible. Be sure it is positive though and avoid negative phrases.

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Through faith we understand that the worlds were framed by the word of God, so that things which are seen were not made of things which do appear.”

Second of all, live by God’s Word! It doesn’t mean that Satan will not try to interfere with your prayers, but our powerful Lord will ultimately win.

Romans 10:17
“So then faith cometh by hearing, and hearing by the word of God.”

 

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So maybe we wait, or maybe we become impatient and make mistakes. Regardless, God is forever faithful to us. I try to be on my best behavior–never wanting to bend the Ten Commandments. It’s a good practice to follow the laws God handed us.

So now soundly sleeping, it’s best I write and not wake her–my sleeping beauty. Watching as the sun shadows the tree tops, I clutch my heart for the love I just adore. If man ever had a second chance at life, it surely would be me as I stare at my gorgeous wife who sleeps so innocently. There’s not much to say as I think about the gift God gave me, except to always stay in prayer. I’ll never forget who made this moment happen. Our Father in heaven, gets all the honor and glory!

 

Are You The Right One For Me?

….if a marriage cannot be glorified in the Lord, then we are settling for Satan’s interference.

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Written by Anne L. Bicks, editor of Dana Bicks LLC

I have been so blessed to have found the right partner for life. It wasn’t until my sixties that the wisdom of God taught me what I should have seen when I was younger. Even so, when I was nineteen years old, I married for the first time. I was raised in a Lutheran church, so marriage was considered a very sacred event. Had I known then, what I know so well now, that matrimony would have never occurred. The only positive thing from that union, was my three beautiful children. But, I realize that young people, widows, or divorcees are all capable of getting married (or remarried), for the wrong reasons. The golden rule is that if a marriage cannot be glorified in the Lord, then we are settling for Satan’s interference. Most people that are in and out of marriages constantly, are not looking to God for their discernment of true love. They have also chosen to ignore the Christian traits of a perfect spouse.

So, I have decided to put together a list of important characteristics that you should consider when deciding if someone is the right one for you. I wish this checklist had existed for me, so if you or someone you know is considering marriage, please share and pray for your or their discernment.

 

CHRISTIAN TRAITS OF A LIFE PARTNER:

Does he/she love God more than you? This is critical, as in time, the way they serve Him will be reflected in the way they love and serve you. Remember, this trait will be passed on to your future generations.

Are they to kind to others? If you don’t see your future partner treat others with kindness and grace, in time he or she will be treating you the same way.

Do they treat their parents with honor and respect? How a person gets along with parents, brothers, and sisters will tell you volumes about their character.

Proverbs 19:26
A son who “mistreats his father and chases away his mother is a son who causes shame and brings reproach.”

Ephesians 6:2-3
A person who honors his father and mother enjoys the favor of the Lord.

 

Are they trustworthy and righteous? This indicates they will keep their word no matter what the cost. By the age of 30, a person’s character and values are formed so this trait should be seriously evaluated by young people under the age of 30.

Are they respected by others? Pay attention to any hesitations people may display when they speak about your possible partner. Do others say both negative and positive things about them? If so, take heed, for they may know something you do not about their personality.

Are they flirtatious? A person’s actions and looks speak volumes about respect for you and the opposite sex. It is NOT in their personality to flirt – it’s indicative of insecurities. Understand that insecurities cannot be “cured” by you or a marriage – it is a character flaw.

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How does your potential partner dress? They should wear decent and appropriate clothing and not draw attention to themselves by the way they fix their hair or by wearing clothing that flaunts personal assets. Sexy clothing should be reserved for the marriage partner.

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Are they contentious or violent? If you notice a lot of unhappiness or anger in this person, then be warned this will definitely transfer into your relationship. Most partners in abusive relationships, report anger issues from the very beginning of their dating cycle.

Are they selfish or lazy? A selfish, lazy person will lack the desire or the means to fulfill certain spousal responsibilities. It is a snapshot of their maturity level. Remember, you can’t pay bills with promises of love.

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Are they addicted to alcohol, drugs, food, sex, work, sports, or impulse buying? This indicates how they keep emotions and desires under control. Addictions are a symptom of a larger problem and much larger than your marriage could survive most times.

Are they a believer in the Lord and share the same religious beliefs? If you are religious and they are an atheist, this will form a constant discord in your family. Oil and water do not mix. Nothing should be more important to you or to the person you marry than your spiritual well-being. By ignoring this critical trait, you may be facing a lifetime of spiritual unrest in the marriage and a battle for the spiritual well-being of your children. In fact, the Bible warns of dating someone who is unevenly yoked with your spiritual beliefs.

What kind of close friends does your potential partner have? Friends can easily mislead and falsely persuade the best of partners.

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Have they been open with you about their part in the failure of past relationships? Beware of the person that always blames others for a failed relationship. This indicates they are not honest to their own self, or God, of their personal downfalls. They can’t ask forgiveness from God without confronting their own part they played in past problems. How can they correct their mistakes and learn from a past relationship without an admission of guilt? They can’t and they will surely carry it through to your marriage!

Do you know the true priorities of your future partner’s life?

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Have you continuously prayed for guidance in making the right choice of a life partner? As Christians, we must learn that we have to wait on the Lord. For a man or woman who has an aching heart and longs to get married, the wait can be very, very hard. Any delay you may encounter might be a message from God that it is for your good. God wants you to call on Him, walk close to Him, and wait on Him. Don’t lose patience and wander away from God in your attempt to find someone to marry. This is extremely dangerous and will usually end up disastrous!

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No one is perfect but these basic spiritual and character qualities should be there. Proverbs is very clear that we are to find a partner who has godly characteristics in our lives. Looking for a man or woman to keep us from being lonely, or just to fill our needs, or to be a parent to our children, should not be the only reasons for marrying someone.

God cannot fail and therefore any marriage built on Him is guaranteed to succeed. Women or men who allow emotions of a potential love to dictate their lives, will never be victorious Christians.

But, so they say, “Love is blind”. Just don’t let it be you!

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